I am only 19 years old and have just found out I am pregnant. I am not ready for a baby, not even close. I was hoping to get some information on possible abortion or adoption options? I need help and I don’t really know where else to turn.
i have a friend thats pregnant and shes i year younger than me so shes 13 and she was raped……i want to know whats the limit of months to get an abortion……shes freaking out and im trying my best to keep her calm ima call the police about this and sue the messed up horny ass hole!oh whats the cost 4 an abortion??
Hey, I wish I had the right answers for your story, but you need to know that you have choices and have the right to make a well informed decision about all your options. I strongly encourage you to be brave and find a Caring Pregnancy center near you, no matter who you are, you have a life with in you and the job of giving him a chance to live. http://www.caringpregnancycenter.net/
Please know that there are many people out there who can and want to help you.
Ladies, there are other places to turn to. Abortion is the murdering of a child, there is no other way to put it. Go to a womens resource center. Join a support group. There are many ways to help you and your baby. Please do not make the mistake of killing your baby. Trust in the Lord and he will help you.
I’m 14 years old, and not have sex. i know that sex until marriage is the right choice. my next door nieghbor is 15 years old, and engaged in intercourse, and is now carrying a child she is not ready for. this baby needs to live. why murder a baby that has done nothing wrong. it was the parent fault for having her. and she just needs a chance at life. i am sure none of you reaing this cannot imagine how scary it i to die, wanna ask your child in the womb? before you make this decision, remember what God has said. trust in Him, and everything will come out as planned.
dam what can i say gruls ust do what you think yALL SHOULD DO WELL THIERS IS THIS TEA DE YERBABUENA YOU FIRST GET A POT PUT HALF WATER IN HALF OF A BAR OF CHOCLATE GRAMA CHOCLATE LET IT BOIL DRINK TO CUPS OF IT OH I FORGOT TO MENTION THATS ONLY IF YALL IN THE FIRST WEEK IF NOT DONT EVEN TRY IT IDK WHAT WOULD HAPPENED I AREADY DID IT LOL TRIED IT KEEP THAT IN MINE THOUGH CHICAS GOOD LUCK
say u girs i feel its your choice you know whats best for you because if i had a choice to make is a situation like those i will tereminate it also and pray and ask god to forgive me and he will God Bless You All.
Do not have an abortion, I repeat, DO NOT have an abortion. I beg of you all! I’m 16 years old, I had one and I couldn’t begin to tell you how screwed up I am because of it. It’s the most devastating and tragic experience I will ever know. Please don’t even consider he “pros” against the cons of following through with the procedure. In all actuality it doesn’t weigh out correctly in the end. Trust me.
I love kids. And finely I can have my own. Or at least this one inside of me. My father is putting this on me. I hate abortions & always will. I’m just about a few weeks. God knows I don’t want to proceed with the abortion that’s comming up. Im only 16 going on 17. I’ve been changing diappers and giving babies a bath since I was 12. My father doesn’t want the child. Even when it’s his grand baby. So cold hearted. My baby’s father wants to at least give our baby a chance before it’s to late. Today’s only Saturday & my dad set the abortion as a emergency. So Monday or Tuesday, Thursday the lastest, my baby’s gone for ever.
am 12 years old and i am pregnant but i scared to tell my mom that im pregnant. i thought will not have sex in till i find my love in my world. so i find him so he is young then me
Girls,
I just want you to know that I don’t know how I ended up in this blog, but on what I can read there is so much confusion because of so many wrong choices because of pregnancy centers and their misinformation.
Educate yourselves. Doctors that do abortions are generally good people and are considerate and tell you about your choices.
A friend…
Please do not have abortions. They mess you up emotionally and physically. Go to a pregnancy center and seek help ask questions from a pastor or other health professional. Remember there is always the choice of adoption. Please let your babies live. They love you and so does God and God loves them.
HEY GIRLS!
IM JAMIE AND YOU MAY BE THINKING ” WHY SHOULD I EVEN BOTHER READING WHAT THIS GIRL IS TELLING ME” RIGHT? WELL LET ME JUST SHARE MY STORY WITH YOU……… I WAS WITH MY SISTER AND SHE BEGAN TALKING. BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS PREGNAT AND I WAS SHOCKED CUZ SHE WASNT EVEN OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL AND WE WERE SCARED OF WHAT MY PARENTS WOULD DO AND HOW HARD WOULD IT BE TO RAISE A CHILD WITHOUT EVEN HAVING A JOB. BUT SHE FINALLY CONFRONTED OUR PARENTS AND LET THEM KNOW THAT THIS BABY WAS GOING TO GET TO KNOW LIFE! AS MONTHS PASSED,MY SISTER LATER GAVE BIRTH TO THIS WONDERFUL AND CARING LITTLE GIRL NAMED DAISY. AND NOW MY NIECE IS WHAT BRINGS LIGHT TO OUR FAMILY. HOPEFULLY YOU DONT GIVE UP SOMETHING THAT IS PART OF YOU AND YOUR SOUL. TRUST YOURSELF CUZ WE GIRLS OVERCOME EVERY OBSTICAL THAT SOMETIMES WE DONT EVEN BELIEVE OURSELFS. DONT LET THAT SACRED ANGEL LEAVE YOUR LIFE THAT SOON….
Well im Victoria age 16 going on 17, last year i had an abortion around this time from my previous boyfriend, it was a crazy experience. But i was left with really no choice, my mother kicked me out and my boyfriend at the time was locked up and about a yr younger than i was. So there was no way he wouldve or even couldve helped me. So I just recently learned that i could be pregnant again because of the tenderness of my breasts and my period hasnt come yet. Im almost positive that im pregnant. I have a wonderful boyfriend who will be right there by my side with whatever decision i make. and he’s older so this time i actually have a choice. but im not sure what to do anymore. Im scared to tell my mother with this dissapointing news once again. but another abortion, was not in my plans, neither is a baby. but i say everything happens for a reason. Only God can help me now. Im mostly scared to dissapoint my family again. i really need to figure out what im going to do. i need help. Please pray for me. :/ never get urself in this situation more than once. please its very stressful, especially for a young girl. use protection and get plan b, anything u can do so this wont happen in ur life. its horrible now that i think about it. reading all these other girls responses on abortion.
Hey girls. I’m doing a persuasive speech for an english assignment on how abortion is okay…I don’t see a lot of girls commenting on here if they had an abortion and they don’t regret it. If anybody did have one and they are okay with it please put your story up here so I can hear your side of the story . Thanks
Well, I read the most recent post and thought I would help you out. Short and to the point. I am older and probably could of kept the child and been fine. I do believe everyone has a story and reasons why they choose such a hard choice. I was recently divorced and already have a child. I had NEVER thought about this situation and was NEVER totally against it. I always believed it was each girls’ choice. Ok I did it, had an abortion. It was indeed the hardest thing I ave ever done emotionally! I believe that I would do it again if I went back in time. I don’t regret it, however I think about it every day. I know where I am at in my life and know that I would not of been able to be the mother I would need to be. I did not plan on this happening and know that everything happens for reasons and everything has a lesson to be learned and taught. With all this being said I don’ regret the abortion and know that I made the righ choice for me and my situation.
Before you make that choice do your soul searching, do your homework on the clinic and stand firmly on your choice.
Just like one of the other young ladies that posted a comment, I too am older and have had two abortions.
I was 15 years old when I had the first procedure done. I was a victim of rape. My attacker was a school “friend” and upon finding out I was pregnant, my legal guardian decided for me that it was best that I didn not keep the child.
The next abortion took place about two years later when I was 17 and again my legal guardian made the decision for me. During this time of my life I was in custody of the state through what is known as the foster care system.
I did not know and what was not told to me by the doctors was the damage I had endured to my reproductive system because of these procedures.
The first procedure was two appointment process, where my cervix was dialted one day and the next day my uterus was scraped with an instrument called a currette. This was very painful after I woke up.
The second procedure was done in a clinic and suctioning instrument was used (vaccuum). My cervix was numbed (saddleblock) and the vaccuum was inserted through my cervix and the baby was sucked out.
After these procedures, it was very difficult for me to conceive and carry children. I had two consecutive miscarriages in my early twenties because of the damage to my uterus from the procedures.
I finally gave birth to my first child when I was 25, only after nine weeks of bed rest and the constant threat to miscarry. Six years later I miscarried for the third time. About two months after the third miscarriage, I became pregnant again and gave birth to a full term baby girl.
Upon the the birth of my last child, my husband and I made the decision to have a hysterectomy due to the difficulty pregnancy presented for me.
At times I feel regret about the abortions I had. The possibility of two babies at such a young age has both its high and low points, aswith anything in life. Then again that is just life.
On the same token, I know that I went through what I went through to help someone else. So if this comment gives hope to the someone in the same situation I was in, then the purpose for my reproductive life has been served.
Hi, I’m 48, and had a b aby when i was 26. I didn’t have a choice, so I found a wonderful family and they adopted her, she’s now 22 and i’m so glad I had her, I have never
ever regreted it, though her dad left i still am glad i had her and know one day, she will find me.
Its up to whoever is preg. what they do, but one thing that made me me know what i felt was when they called
her contents when all i d id was call to ask
about a preg. test, and they told me how they do a abortion, calling her contents, and that was it,
i knew i had to have her.
Her dad may not have been around, but that was ok,
i made it, and after all this time he’s still gone,
and I still love my baby.
he was ok when we dated but then,
accused me of dating others when i didn’t.
hey all yall girls im 16 years old in yes i had a skear but when i found out that i wasent it hurt me to death me in my man iv been wit for 3 in a half years!!!!:):) yall are saying that yalls man would break up wai yall if they find out i think that they are dont love yall at all so leave them thats wat i think!!!
Don’t believe abortion clinics when they tell you that the baby is ‘just a clump of tissue’. Have you ever seen a picture of an eight-week-old fetus? By week eight the baby has all the organs it will ever have. The heart is beating and will beat roughly 54 MILLION times before birth.
Abortion is a horrible procedure where the baby is literally either ripped limb from limb or burned alive.
I understand that the situations where you are pregnant can be hurtful, stressful, and downright scary. But abortion is never the answer, unless YOUR LIFE is endangered. You should never punish somone who isn’t responsible for your problems.
to all the haters . sometimes in life we all have to make decisions that are hard , or difficult , and even though we know what is best for us we still do whats wrong, I have been in a relation ship with a man that is married, for 9 months now ,and i just missed my period, so that means that were pregnant, i am really sure that if the wife found out , it would be history for both of us , the father says that its my decision, and it is. but he is 55 and i am 28 , he has 6 children already, and i don’t have any,it would be my first, i was married for 7 years to a loser , with whom i never wanted to have kids, now the man i love is somewhat older and well lived, and i am still in my youth, it wouldn’t rite for me to continue with this preg. knowing that the father would only be here for maybe 10 more years, my child deserves to have a family for a lifetime and not just a few years, so i have made the decision to have an abortion and it’s my choice,by doing so one day i can have the family i want with a supportive husband and loving father that will be here for the majority of my kids life and not just a few yrs. its selfish to not give the kid a happy family and a family for a lifetime
hey girls never a abort one of your on species its better to let you own boyfriend know watt going to happened and if h don’t want it then screw him u dot need and asshole in your life you could be single perantes it don’t matter ull struggle ut its worth it don’t ever abort a child of your own kind ull probably regret watt u do after so please girls keep your head up high and dot let your parents or your man scared u its not wroth it trust me watt happend happens but thats just sad doing that killing on of your own kind its just stupid well hpe u guys do better
hey my name is nicey well can i tell you a lil bite about what happen to my sisther when you found out she was about to be a mom she want to have abortion in we told her that not right to have abortion
I think abortion is individual decisions. You have to make sure thats what you want, not because someone else opinion. I had a couple but with no regrets because I knew thats what I wanted.
My friends daughter told me that shes pregnant and asked me not to let her parents know. Shes only 16. I am a mother myself of an 18 years old. What do i do???????????
I found ot a couple of days ago that im pregnant i have a kid already i have never believed in abortion but am changing my mind. I found out not 48 hrs after taking my test that i have a very serious health condition that doesnt effect most people till their 50s and im only 26, plus niether me nor my bf can afford another child so inspite of my long held beliefs im getting an abortion. Never say that you wont do it ever bc when your in a situation like i now find myself you might change your own beliefs. I am thankful now that we live a time and country where we have the choice and it might bother me in the future it is the only logical choice available for me. Never let anyone make the choice for you remember WE ARE WOMEN AND WE ALWAYS KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT FOR OURSELVES. I hope this helps someone out there make up their own mind GOD BLESS!
For those interested, the book Choice is a collection of stories from women who have made an assortment of reproductive decisions. It’s a good book to gain some perspective on how complex such choices can be.
For all of you who are debating whether to abort or carry to term, that is your decision. None of us can make the decision for you. All I can say is read up on each choice you are considering, be as well versed as possible, and think about how these choices will effect your life. No one else can live it for you.
HELLO EVERYONE,
I HAD ABORTION LIKE IN 2004 I WAS 21 YEARS OLD I HAD ONE CHILD ALREADY AND I COULDN’T TAKE CARE OF ANOTHER ONE, SO NO I DON’T HAVE NO REGRET ON WHAT I DID AND NO IT DON’T MESS WITH ME. I THINK EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON LIKE GOD PUT US ON THIS EARTH FOR CERTAIN REASON AND I FEEL NO ONE HAVE THE RIGHT TO TELL ME OR NO ONE ELSE IF THEY CAN HAVE ABORTION IF THEY IS OVER AGE IF YOU IS UNDER THE AGE THAT A ISSUE THAT THE PARENT AND THE GIRL THAT IS CARING THE FETUS BUT THE FATHER DON’T HAVE NO SAY SO. NO ONE CAN TELL ME I DID THE WRONG THING BECAUSE I FEEL I DIDN’T AND I KNOW I DIDN’T SO I FEEL PEOPLE JUST NEED TO MIND THE OWN BUSINESS AND WORRY ABOUT THERE OWN BECAUSE SO PEOPLE DO THIS BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO NOT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO AND I DID IT BECAUSE I HAD TO BECAUSE NO CHILD OF MINE GOING TO BE ON NO GOVERNMENT FUNDING AND THAT ALL IT’S TO SAY ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SO NO IT DON’T BOTHER ME NOT ONE BIT BECAUSE MY SON HAVE EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD BECAUSE I CAN TAKE CARE OF HIM WITH NO PROBLEM.
There is nothing boneheaded about sticking up for the unborn! If they had a choice they would want a chance! No one should be put down for speaking the truth about how wrong abortion is! Pro-life is the right way!
Loved Ones…
There is no doubt we all do what we think is right at the time. But let me tell you that you will never get rid of that baby. You will regret your decision the rest of your life. I know, I do. Even after 30 years this year not a month goes by that I don’t think about the baby I swept form my womb because I wasn’t ready. But the clinics told me it was okay, and legal it’s painless NO, it’s not!!. They will not tell you the mental pain you experience the rest of your life.
I punished myself and never had any children of my own. I told God if I would kill one I would not deserve a child. I held to that promise despite my desire feel a baby grow in my stomach and to hold my own child. You never will understand that untill you get older.
Life, All baby’s, are a gift from God. All life is given by God, and He never makes a mistakes. Who are we to take end the life of an unborn man or women. this child is an a gift that will one day dance with you, cry with you. sleep next to you, say MOMmy why are you crying, this child will fill your heart with more tlove than you will ever know. One day you will look into your childs face and think I am so glad I chose Life…
All that being said…What if your mother chose to abort you????
Hey girls! I am now 22 yrs old. I was 17 when I got pregnant for the first time. I had just graduated from high school and was about to move out and go to college. Well my mom talked me into having an abortion so I could still do that. I was severely depressed. I had the procedure done in June and I was again pregnant by the same guy in late October. I was so depressed, I thought my life would never be the same without a child. I did not live at home then so I never told my parents until I was about 5 months pregnant. My parents were disappointed but the helped me move back home finished college and now I have a 3 year old that I love with all my heart. I regret my abortion everyday. I always have to look at it in abouther way since my son is here. I feel that my first baby is my sons garudian angel. But I am not justifying an abortion. Always know an abortion is a womans choice. Just please think before you act. Having a child is the greatest moment in your life. And if you are young and don’t want to have an abortion, there are many married and single couples that want children and can’t have them, consult an adoption angency. Thank you for reading this, and I hope this helped you in your decision making.
I work in a center where we counsel women and teens about their pregnancy situations and I have literally sat with over a thousand women, a fair number who have had abortions.
Did you know?
4% of women having abortions said they felt pressured to abort.
4% said they were not fully informed.
2% felt rushed and 4% uncertain beforehand, yet
1% received no counseling beforehand, and
the vast majority were completely satisfied with their care.
94% were fully informed about alternatives.
Almost none suffer trauma symptoms and abortion is the safest procedure in medicine.
Hi i am 25 and i have three children. I have not finished college and am currently not enrolled. I have had six abortions and am pregnant again all by the same father who has two other children besides our three. Yes i blame myself for being in this situation because despite the fight or help he would stop giving me with our kids because i don’t want to have sex until he makes the committment to marry me or unprotected. Even with his help i’ve been struggling with my children getting them to school and everything else they need. I still have not gotten myself together. We stay in an apartment that only allows four people u do the math and i can’t find a home or bigger apt. that will hold us that i can afford because i will not raise my children in the ghetto with bad schools. I do regret the abortions i’ve had and i ask God’s forgiveness, but what i regret most is not standing up for myself and my body therefore leading myself into these disappointing paths and decisions. One lady asked what if your mother killed u, truth is since H.S. my life has been filled with what we call life: changes, choices, decisions, love, hate, regrets and even depression and every time i get in a pickle i wish my mother would have given me up. I’m suppose to be this strong person, but i’m weak in so many ways all to to fear of what next. I pray no other girl puts herself in the position i’ve put myself in. I hope that they find God and keep him close and never sway on their beliefs in any given situation. God bless u all!
Toya,
I understand what you are saying. Have you thought about adoption? Also, what about birth control? Help is there for you if you just reach out. Visit a pregnancy crisis center to deal with what is going on now. Sometimes we have to get strength from someone who is trustworthy before we can build it up in ourselves. It sounds like you are letting life happen to you. You’ve got to take control girl. You and your children deserve this. There are many financial benefits to single moms for school. Now is the time! God be with you!
hi i dont no here im going.i ben with my man about 1 year and down the line i find out i was pregn and he ask me to get abortion and i did i was 17 year old .ladey dont care about what man thank do for you down the line you still by or self.the 2 time the same man im 23 year older now out of school have my own pamtment work doing good for my self. one day i go see my dr and she tell me im 3m pregn and i till my man that i ben with over 8 year that im pregn you no what he ask me to do and i did to have abortion i didnt no what to do . now i did it my life is no good because i wont my baby but i didnt wont my man to live me. so for all waman how is pregn dont have a abortion because of a man because down the line you will love that baby i no i wish i can have my baby back she or he ill ben have on oct 19th 2009
well….im 22 i have 2 kids..i was pregnet for the theird time felt it was to much i was going thru hard times w my boyfriend…i thought an abortion was the best idea..i went the hole thing..after 6mon i found out i was pregnet agin i has a miscarrige(very pain full)..now i am pregnet yes i know!im going thru another miscarrige…i know i need birthcontrol,my point is making the right choice is not easy some times its hard.think whats best for you and your family(Not a guy) ,seek help,i wish i would of make that choice..oh go to school get an education thats important
hey im only 16 n got a baby
i dont think you shold have an abortion
you should put it up for adoption
cuz me i kept my baby because i got an job and take care of my self and my family so i have mine
but you are 19 and if you killt he baby you will feel bad in the long run so im telling you to keep your baby and do what you think is right for the baby
im 23 years old and have a 6 year old. i recently found out that i am pregnant and am now almost 14 weeks and my boyfriend not the father of my 6 year old, is tellin me to get an abortion. i personally dont believe in it and dont want to have it because i have certain medical conditions which ive been told are a high risk to my health and my life. ive told him and he doesnt care he still wants me to get an abortion and i believe if i dont do it he might try to give me one himself. what do i do. i want to keep my baby but im scared of what he might do.
Hey there. I am a 27yr old mother of two. I left the dad, and am supporting my children alone. I recently found out I was pregnant again, and have made the decision not to have the baby. I was on birth control, but its not 100% effective. My children were both very premature, had long hospital stays and many complications. The doctors told me not to try to have any more, but refused to do the tubal litigation. I believe there are always choices. If you are to young to get a job and support your child yourself, you shouldnt be having sex in the first place. it kills me that there are 12 to 16 year olds who are having to make the choice of having a baby or not, when you are still babies yourselves. Sex isnt something that youre going to miss out on if you dont do it, it will be there when you get older. Get your education, get a job, and get to a place where if you get pregnant, you can support your child yourself if the daddy leaves you. My daughter just started kindergarden, and when shes old enough, I will have “the talk” with her and hope she will be smart enough to say NO until shes old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences as an adult who doesnt need a man to support her.
Look ladies, this is your body and your choice. Don’t let anyone guilt you into anything that you’re not prepared to do. You have to live with your choices, not these retards, and not myself either. I have been there, and it wasn’t an easy choice for me, but it was the only option that seemed logical. I have no regrets, I had the procedure done and sure it had an emotional toll on me. But in the long run I believe I made the correct decision for myself and my family.
The people who try to make you feel bad are people who have not walked in your shoes, people who don’t live your life, and people who won’t have to deal with the repercussions of your choice. Ignore them and find out what you truly want.
Raising a child can be very rewarding and also very challenging. If you’re not prepared to make the sacrifices in life that it takes to raise a child or even to give a child to a good home, than you’re really only left with one option.
Know that in the end, you are the one who has to deal with this. No one else. So no one else should decide anything for you. It is your body, and your life there for it is your decision. And hopefully it will always remain this way, no one should decide what you should do with your body. It is yours and yours alone.
its not right to kill somebody or a baby that hasnt even had a chance to see the world i know we tell ourselves that we dont need a baby but i bet she/he would be happy thtat they are yours!!!!!
MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION!!!!!!!!!
Im 19 a sophmore at a university with a full scholarship. Ive been with my bf for 4 years. Just found out Im abt 5 weeks pregnant. My parents are very traditional and I just dont have the guts to disappoint them with the news. My boyfriend is with me 100% whether I decide to keep the baby or not. But abortion just seems like my best shot. I cant get a job because the scholarship requires me to be a full time student. I cant let the scholarship go because I would have no way to pay for my career. My boyfriend is now working 2 jobs to pay for his school. I was on the pill but it wasnt effective. I know its my choice and I will be emotional after but right now is just not the time. If we women have the right to chose when we want to have a family then who are you to say what we should do.
Hey Everyone, Im Going Through A Tough Time Right Now Nd Although My Boyfriend Is Here With Me All The Time i just feel like im going thru it all alone. Iam 16 Yrs Old and Pregnant My Story May Seem Similar To the others except the only difference is that i already have a baby who’s seven months.My Boyfriend is 17 and he’ll be 18 next month, he’s currently searching for an apartment,job,and ofcourse attending school now in his last year of high school.He says hes not ready for a child and if i have it it’ll be rushing him to speed up the process of what hes working on.He also said that he loves me and promises to support me in whatever decision i make..He just feels like im young still in school and already have a baby nd that i should just wait..Hes right in way but he has to understand where im coming from.I know iam young and that i already have a child but i feel like its not fair to let one live and not the other i dont wanna take my baby’s life i wanna give it a chance at life..Im a mother so i know how it feels to raise a child its hard but its just sooo beautiful and me being a mother i would know what iam missing.I feel like i should keep it But i dont wanna upset nor burden anyone.iam just soo confused and i know that iam going to be an emotional wreck because i already am.I cry every night wishing things would just come easy but it does’nt its all up to me to set the difficulty of my life but i wanna have this baby so bad no doubt about it i just ned help ..Theres not a night that goes by and everytime i close my eyes all i can hear is the words CAN I LIVE?.
Eshaa I have advice. Adoption, if you feel you can not raise another child but do not want to abort the baby, than give him/her up for adoption. There are many married couples who can not have children and want one so bad, so please dear don’t abort the baby let the baby live in a loving home. A couple from my church just adopted a little baby girl. She is so sweet and adorable and they love her so much, please let your baby be loved as much as that baby is, and let another couple be as happy as they are!
im 23yrs old 9week pregnet i dont know what i wanna do me n the dad just broked up and he dos’nt even live close to me. He says i should have an abortion but i dont know if thats what i want, i just dont wanna have a child with out a dad to be there for him when he needs him. i cant do this all by my self i have no money to support a child what should i do?
i am 17 years old and got an abortion because my boyfriend(STEVEN) “wasnt ready” he told me if i really loved him i would do it so i did and im pregnet and ready to have one
If you ever considered abortion or thought about it, I recommend you watch my 4D Sonogram of my pumpkin. She’s smiling and laughing and so joyful. No amount of pain can be enough to eradicate her.
I HAVE to do a project over this over abortion and let me just say OMG !!!!!!!!! murder !!! thats what this is , because my cousin is 15 years old got pregnet and guess what she took control and it was hard but she is making it !!!!! IF YOU CAN LAY THERE AND HAVE SEX THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO STAND UP AND TAKE CARE OF THE BABY !!!!!! if i am wrong please tell me kkkkkkkk
you have got to be joking !!!!!!!! i am only 18 years old and i even am smart enough to not have sex in less i love that persom and want a family with him !!!!! come one people have some dignity to not let your self look and sound like a hoeeeee this is wrong, you could at least have the baby and give it up adubtion!!!!!!! THINK THINK THINK !!!!!!
im 27 married for 8 years to the same man. with 3 kids. my third. came at a time, when hell was all around me, i decided to get an abortion, but for some reason, i didnt, i cant really tell you why i didnt, but she came early, at 7 months, and when i say her i realized why i didnt. i loved her, even though i didnt know her , she was and is my daughter. if your young and condsidering abortion, why would you have sex in the first place. please dont be that pathetic.honey, just wait. you wont die. and nither with the guy your with. as for the love part. believe me, people are not trustworthy,dont become a fool.
If you ever considered abortion or thought about it, I recommend you watch my 4D Sonogram of my pumpkin. She’s smiling and laughing and so joyful. No amount of pain can be enough to eradicate her.
I had an abortion recently and I just wanted to let people out there know it really wasn’t that bad and don’t feel pressure to keep a baby if your not ready its your choice and yours only. I also had a baby at 18 and it truly is amazing I love my baby so much and it definitely is possible to keep your child and take care of it there’s a lot of help out there. But I do feel I made the right decision by getting an abortion the second pregnancy.
let me tell you this abortion is not right i am 25 years old i have been with my husband a year married that is and we have been together for eight i would do anything to have a child to call mine. We can not afford adoption and we can not afford the surgery we both work and i attend school full time. There is always someone looking for a child and someone willing to love her/him no matter what if you would like to give up your child why not give them a chance to live like your mother gave you and give someone the oppertunity to have a famliy.
if you decide you do not want your baby call me 812 -614-2245 women is 25 man is 30 and can not have kids and can not afford the local adoption places can afford attorney both work are married and have 2 bedroom apartment would have loving grand parents nieces and nephews along with uncles and aunt women goes to school full time and have a cat 5 years old. coudl afford to raise your child/ there child and put trough college later on will love and cherish your and gods gift of love
Hey everyone! I’m just doing this for a persuasive essay and i need some stories to put for my English class. So please!! Help me out!! I want people to doing abortions and I need to put what you guys say about having abortions. if you can send me your stories
Thanks for your support!!!
hey my names alanah and im doing this for a persuasive essay and i need some storeis to put on my essay and all im saying is abortion needs to stop because what the heck killing babies is sad than ever and would you like to be killed i dont think so..nobody should be thinking about having sex and under all i can say is that im having a baby when im in my late 20s even a miscarriage because theres women out there who cant have babies and theres sick women out there having abortions ….thanks for reading this..
thanks for your support
l9ove .alanah martinez here my email:alanah_m@yahoo.com
hey everyone i just wanted to let you guys know is that I’m doing Abortion for my persuasive essay so i need some stories if you’re it because it’s just that you are giving up your own baby that has given you!
Really!! you should just keep the baby and support it or get some help!! Cause’ later on you are going to REGRET IT!!!!!
So please give up your baby!!!!
Hello my name is nana and i am an 18 year old parent i have 2 children when i was pregnant of my first child i was affraid i was 16yrs old i didn’t know what to do my boyfriend didn’t have a job i was on probation i had just got out of pathways a juvenile detention his mother took me in to her home and helped me raise my child when my child was born she was born with a defect she had hemangeoma is a tumor on her nose and on her private area she had surgery on her nose when she was 4 months. She was a delicate baby i could’nt even hold my baby. Because she use to cry of pain i was in hospitals all the time because her tumor would grow everyday after the months went on she got better of her surgery and of her private area i was a junior in high school i would take care of my daughter and go to school at the same time i struggled but i got through it with my family and baby daddy and now my daughter is 2 years old and she is so adorable. So when i was a Senior in Highschool i found out i was pregnant of my son i didnt want to have him because i was scared that he was going to have the same defect that my daughter had or worst i was affraid so i made an appointment for the abortion i talked to my mom that morning before going to the appointment and she told me what was i thinking a child is a precious thing that god sends you i was so stressed out and embarrased that i was pregnant again i didnt want to go to school anymore but i told myself i need a better future for my family so i went back to school i really didn’t care what people would say so when my boy was born they took him away from me because he had an infection in his blood he did’nt know how to eat or breath right he stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks i use to go to the hospital and see him with tubes all over him i use to cry and tell god why if i am a good person and i wanted my son so when i went and sayed sorry to god about what i was going to do have an abortion and i told him to leave me my son. So the next day i recieve a phone call and they told me my baby was ok to go pick him up when i heard that my heart jumped. Now my baby is 6 months he is healthy and beatiful.And as for me i am a highschool graduate and attending college to become a Radiologist Technition. And planning to get married with the father of my kids. going on 6 years in our relationship love him and he loves me to.This is part of my life. and don’t make the same mistakes i did but you can succed in life with your child or children.If i can do it you can 2. Don’t do something you are going to regret !!!!
i’ve done both. i had a daughter and a son relatively early, thinking i could handle it, thinking i’d be just fine, as all the “abortion naysayers” kept insisting. we struggled, and it wasn’t all ice cream and fairy tales, but they *were* incredibly happy times in my life.
life fell apart, however, and at 6 years old and 2 years old, i made the decision to give them up for adoption.
this will rip your soul from your body. i was out of my jello tree for 2 years before coming back to some form of reality. i still walk around with a hole through my chest, having raised them for that long and giving them up.
they were adopted by a great family, they’ve had a fantastic life, and i now talk to one of them. i did the right thing in giving them up – right for them. not for me. it still breaks my heart. i’m still haunted by that. i have nightmares. i even have trouble making a decision for myself, because well, look at what happened the last time i made one. i gave my own flesh and blood away. i was tormented by guilt. i still am, 18 years later.
i’ve also experienced an abortion. best thing i could have done. i suffer no guilt from it, i barely, if ever, even think about it. it was the logical thing to do at the time, it made all the sense in the world. it’s not murder any more than taking a chunk out of your finger is. it’s cells at that early stage, nothing more. just because it grows doesn’t mean it’s a child. when it has a brain, well, that might alter things somewhat.
i’ve also miscarried 2 children i was trying to conceive. devastating. found out it was due to very low estrogen. so nothing to be done about that. and i held those dead babies in the palm of my hand, both of them 6 weeks along. lumps of pale jelly. don’t let extremists tell you it’s a person at that gestational age. it’s not. it still hurt to lose them, the potential for a child was there. you get emotionally attached – you’re supposed to. nature’s wired you to instinctually protect and expand your species. i think we’re pretty good for population, personally.
now, interestingly enough, i’m faced with another unplanned pregnancy, at close to 40 years old, after being told that no, they would not tie my tubes because i’m allegedly going through early menopause. they were wrong. and i find myself searching the internet for opinion on what to do, and find very little outside of the holy rollers who insist that having the child is the right thing, every time, no matter what.
it’s not. you’re the only one who can make that call, though.
i *can* tell you, having experienced both; giving a child up for adoption hurt me far more, for far longer, and put me in therapy the last 18 years to deal with guilt and trouble now making any sort of decision. giving them up left a hole that still runs through me, and likely will til the day i die. it killed me to do that. i wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
being a parent in poverty sucks. not knowing how you’re going to feed that child sucks. how fair is that to the child, or to you? these abortion nay-sayers make it out like, oh just have the child and all will be right, it’ll all work out.
sometimes, it doesn’t. to be realistic about it.
abortion, it sucks for a few weeks, and it was done. it causes me no remorse, knowing it was the rational, logical thing to do. i know not all women agree with that, but there *are* women out there for whom this is the right decision.
ask me today if i’m going to keep this baby i’m now pregnant with, and i couldn’t honestly give you an answer. i live in a very christian town so anyone i know up here is totally biased in their belief it’s a sin to abort.
being a mother made me a better person, i can tell you that. i have such fond memories of my daughter and i. but i remember how hard it was too. there is not a moment’s peace. there is not a “night off”. this is 24/7, the rest of your life.
now, however, having finally gotten some sense of sanity back, 12 years after giving my children up, i have to say i love not having the responsibility. i love my life, i travel, i go where i want, when i want to. i can save up a stupid amount of money not spent on diapers or college funds, and take trips to europe, home to canada, new zealand. there’s a freedom in not having a family that is so precious as well. i snowboard. i skateboard. i do everything that scares me. i *live*. finally.
someone once told me, having a child is the act of willingly taking your heart and living with it outside your body. very true.
don’t let anyone guilt you into having a child you’re not ready for, emotionally or financially. instinct, if you listen carefully, will tell you what’s right for you.
screw what anyone else thinks. you’re the only one who has to live with your decision.
if having a child will be the most incredible thing to happen to you – and don’t get me wrong, it can be so incredibly wonderful at times – then do it.
there are pros and cons to both sides.
some women, and even some men, will tell you it’ll destroy you to have an abortion.
imagine having the child and failing when they’re older. *that*, my dear, will destroy you.
imagine becoming a mom is the best decision you’ve ever made.
all of them are entirely possible.
the choice of which path to walk down, is yours alone.
just know that abortion is not all fire and brimstone.
and having a child is not all roses and fairytales.
in everything, there is balance.
I just found out a few weeks ago I am pregnant. I have 3 boys, and another boy who lives with his Dad. I had a abortion at age 14, it destroyed me. My now ex boyfriend is demanding I get an abortion or he will get custody of the baby! I cannot handle a abortion or another custody fight. The thought of a abortion makes me want to pass out. I have a new boyfriend now who is totally understanding. But I am scared.
I broke up with my ex because he didnt care how I felt about getting an abortion, then he came to face with that. He said If I keep it he will get custody since I am crazy and already have 3 kids. He says I am crazy because I talk to my friends about the pregnancy and my problams.
I am just scared. He will not sign away his rights to the baby! He keeps sending me threats.
I do not know what to do. I am about 7 weeks pregnant now.
Ok so here’s my story………I am 20 yrs old about to turn 21 in a couple of months.I have no children but my bf has 3. My bf and I have been together for nearly 2yrs. I love him with everthing I’ve got. When we met he was going through a divorce….We discussed not having children for @ least 2 or 3 more yrs to come. I couldn’t get on birth control though because of a heart murmur condition that I have. Well anyways I just found out that I am 6wks pregnant. I was always one to be pro-life (against abortions) but now that its actually me Im really thinking hard about this. He strictly and undoubtedly doesnt want this baby, he says he doesn’t want anything to do with it if I decide to keep it. I understand his point of view that it is kind of soon for us we havent really experienced living together or having fun just the two of us….anyway then theres my point of view to where in a way I want to have this baby….He says its either him or the baby…This turns my love for him into hate because he should’ve just said that he would be there for me no matter what.
He says if I go through with this abortion that we can still be together… And in a couple of yrs have a planned preg. This is indeed something that I want to have a baby with the father around…Who wants to raise a baby alone????
I’ve thought about adoption but I think that would emotionally scar me alot more than abortion. Due to his attitude to where he says he loves me but doesn’t want this baby “right now” Do you think its all a front?? If I get an abortion for him I wonder if all the things he tells me will happen between us, I know that nothings guaranteed but I love him and I truly believe he loves me too. I truly just don’t know what to do…Oh and on the whole adoption thing he says he doesn’t want a preg. gf……I’ve already told my mom and g ma about my pregnancy there so excited about it….I hate to take that away from them…..Should I just raise this baby on my own and say SCREW HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IDk..Please help I need advice….
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Im 27 i have a beautiful 3 yearold gurl and a 10 year old boy. Ive had to abortions 6 months apart.I just found out that i was pregnate .I have a apportment due saturday for a procedure Im alittle scared I want to keep the baby but I already have 2.I have a alright job but I do have things going on in my life right now I dont want to get rid of the baby but Im scared to have another one and stugle.I dont know wat I should do is the frist time Ive been so confused about a situation can any one give me a advice.?
Im 27 i have a beautiful 3 yearold gurl and a 10 year old boy. Ive had two abortions 6 months apart.I just found out that i was pregnate .I have a apportment due saturday for a procedure Im alittle scared I want to keep the baby but I already have 2.I have a alright job but I do have things going on in my life right now I dont want to get rid of the baby but Im scared to have another one and stugle.I dont know wat I should do is the frist time Ive been so confused about a situation can any one give me a advice.?
I have been reading alot of comments about abortions. It makes me so sad to think of that. Please don’t do it. I just had another miscarrage and my husband and I have just been very depressed because we have been wanting another baby. There are so many people in the world like myself who would love to raise your baby if you couldn’t. So I believe you should at least give the beautiful baby up for adoption and give it a chance at living a healthy life. I hope I have been of help to you. Keep your head up and be strong.
girls, its ur decision what to pick. abortion is not murder, so all of u r sayin if u were raped u would keep the baby?? or if the baby is insest u want to have the baby, u want a brother/ son??? if ur young, to young we r over populated as it is, 2 many people r on welfare.! do some thing good for ur self till ur much older, dont make life 2 hard on ur self, idk what i would pick,
.. its a womens moral right to abortion, a fetus isnt a ACTUAL human being. ( it can be a new born child or a hundred year old grandpa or pregnant women). they r required FREEDOM, to act by the use of thier mind.. the fetus is only a potential humkan being like a acorn is a potential oak tree.
I am 15 going 2 be 16, and i dont think that if i make a mistake that it should be here for the rest of my life, but im not saying id jump right into getn an abortion, its not for every one, but dont say its murder, cuz after all what if it just happind 2 be a miss carage?!! — Amy
21, and have just started working…i have a secrete relationship with a 30 yr old guy who happen took my everything. Yes I begin to love him that I have to give my virginity,knowing that on the expexted date of my m enstral period we make love…….3 days latter after we make love, my menstration doenst arrive.Am I pregnant?
I am not ready to be a mother, how can i stop myself to get pregnant at this short time…plz help
its not the babies fault that you guys were stupid and had sex ok its your own fault so own up and do what’s right for the baby if you don’t want it then put i up for adoption, ddon’t get an abortion because your taking some ones life away they feel too just likke me an u. they have a heart beat an they feel pain. if you don’t want to have a baby don’t have sex because nothing is forsure. so don;t be stupid an take the babies life away its not their fault
hi my name is kendra in i have 7 year old daugther in im pregant with another in trust me.Me in my babydaddy is not on good terms in i dont want this baby sum day i think about gettin abortion in each day i cry cause sumtime i think aint nobody going to be for me with 2 kids….with one it is good but with two i dont know… So for all my ladys out there i now how u feel trust me so u not along……
Sup, im jess. im 14 and have never had a abortion. my friend and i are doing a report for school on this and i have to say that i find abortion the meanest thing on earth! i know some of you are put in a bad spot, but think about the baby not just yourself. you don’t have to get an abortion, you could just give it away. true your parents or boyfriend may want to get rid of it but its YOURS not theirs! don’t do something you will most likely hate yourself for latter!
Good luck finding the right thing to do but please don’t abort!
When sex is willingly can we please get a little wiser and stop thinking that pregnancy cant happen to you. What is instead of a baby it’s AIDS. IT CAN HAPPEN TO EVERYONE AND ANYONE.
i just found out im pregnant, and i really dont know what im going to do. my first thought was abortion and then in the back of my mind i think about how horrible i will feel for the rest of my life. but im 21 and dont want that kind of responsibility. im really scared. i dont want to even tell my boyfriend. i dont want him to leave me. gah. any suggestions.
Please visit Abortion.com for information onhow to find an abortion provider.
I am only 19 years old and have just found out I am pregnant. I am not ready for a baby, not even close. I was hoping to get some information on possible abortion or adoption options? I need help and I don’t really know where else to turn.
need to know how it will happen
i am 14. i had sex with a man i thought i loved. but he left me when he found out i was pregnant… what do i do?
I am only 17yrs old and pregnant.I dont know what to do I am so confused because the father isn’t ready for another child.What should I do ???????????
i have a friend thats pregnant and shes i year younger than me so shes 13 and she was raped……i want to know whats the limit of months to get an abortion……shes freaking out and im trying my best to keep her calm ima call the police about this and sue the messed up horny ass hole!oh whats the cost 4 an abortion??
Hey, I wish I had the right answers for your story, but you need to know that you have choices and have the right to make a well informed decision about all your options. I strongly encourage you to be brave and find a Caring Pregnancy center near you, no matter who you are, you have a life with in you and the job of giving him a chance to live. http://www.caringpregnancycenter.net/
Please know that there are many people out there who can and want to help you.
k so i am pregnant and if my man finds out then he will leave me and i am not ready for a baby so i need help with this one
i’m 5weeks pregnant. if i’m going to abort the baby, what will happen to me?
Can a 13 year old child refuse an abortion even when both parents give there consent.
Well,I’m 28 ,pregnant,and in an unhappy marriage.I don’t want this baby.What should I do?
Ladies, there are other places to turn to. Abortion is the murdering of a child, there is no other way to put it. Go to a womens resource center. Join a support group. There are many ways to help you and your baby. Please do not make the mistake of killing your baby. Trust in the Lord and he will help you.
I’m 14 years old, and not have sex. i know that sex until marriage is the right choice. my next door nieghbor is 15 years old, and engaged in intercourse, and is now carrying a child she is not ready for. this baby needs to live. why murder a baby that has done nothing wrong. it was the parent fault for having her. and she just needs a chance at life. i am sure none of you reaing this cannot imagine how scary it i to die, wanna ask your child in the womb? before you make this decision, remember what God has said. trust in Him, and everything will come out as planned.
<3 be strong ladies, be strong.
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say u girs i feel its your choice you know whats best for you because if i had a choice to make is a situation like those i will tereminate it also and pray and ask god to forgive me and he will God Bless You All.
Do not have an abortion, I repeat, DO NOT have an abortion. I beg of you all! I’m 16 years old, I had one and I couldn’t begin to tell you how screwed up I am because of it. It’s the most devastating and tragic experience I will ever know. Please don’t even consider he “pros” against the cons of following through with the procedure. In all actuality it doesn’t weigh out correctly in the end. Trust me.
I love kids. And finely I can have my own. Or at least this one inside of me. My father is putting this on me. I hate abortions & always will. I’m just about a few weeks. God knows I don’t want to proceed with the abortion that’s comming up. Im only 16 going on 17. I’ve been changing diappers and giving babies a bath since I was 12. My father doesn’t want the child. Even when it’s his grand baby. So cold hearted. My baby’s father wants to at least give our baby a chance before it’s to late. Today’s only Saturday & my dad set the abortion as a emergency. So Monday or Tuesday, Thursday the lastest, my baby’s gone for ever.
am 12 years old and i am pregnant but i scared to tell my mom that im pregnant. i thought will not have sex in till i find my love in my world. so i find him so he is young then me
Girls,
I just want you to know that I don’t know how I ended up in this blog, but on what I can read there is so much confusion because of so many wrong choices because of pregnancy centers and their misinformation.
Educate yourselves. Doctors that do abortions are generally good people and are considerate and tell you about your choices.
A friend…
Please do not have abortions. They mess you up emotionally and physically. Go to a pregnancy center and seek help ask questions from a pastor or other health professional. Remember there is always the choice of adoption. Please let your babies live. They love you and so does God and God loves them.
HEY GIRLS!
IM JAMIE AND YOU MAY BE THINKING ” WHY SHOULD I EVEN BOTHER READING WHAT THIS GIRL IS TELLING ME” RIGHT? WELL LET ME JUST SHARE MY STORY WITH YOU……… I WAS WITH MY SISTER AND SHE BEGAN TALKING. BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS PREGNAT AND I WAS SHOCKED CUZ SHE WASNT EVEN OUT OF HIGH SCHOOL AND WE WERE SCARED OF WHAT MY PARENTS WOULD DO AND HOW HARD WOULD IT BE TO RAISE A CHILD WITHOUT EVEN HAVING A JOB. BUT SHE FINALLY CONFRONTED OUR PARENTS AND LET THEM KNOW THAT THIS BABY WAS GOING TO GET TO KNOW LIFE! AS MONTHS PASSED,MY SISTER LATER GAVE BIRTH TO THIS WONDERFUL AND CARING LITTLE GIRL NAMED DAISY. AND NOW MY NIECE IS WHAT BRINGS LIGHT TO OUR FAMILY. HOPEFULLY YOU DONT GIVE UP SOMETHING THAT IS PART OF YOU AND YOUR SOUL. TRUST YOURSELF CUZ WE GIRLS OVERCOME EVERY OBSTICAL THAT SOMETIMES WE DONT EVEN BELIEVE OURSELFS. DONT LET THAT SACRED ANGEL LEAVE YOUR LIFE THAT SOON….
Well im Victoria age 16 going on 17, last year i had an abortion around this time from my previous boyfriend, it was a crazy experience. But i was left with really no choice, my mother kicked me out and my boyfriend at the time was locked up and about a yr younger than i was. So there was no way he wouldve or even couldve helped me. So I just recently learned that i could be pregnant again because of the tenderness of my breasts and my period hasnt come yet. Im almost positive that im pregnant. I have a wonderful boyfriend who will be right there by my side with whatever decision i make. and he’s older so this time i actually have a choice. but im not sure what to do anymore. Im scared to tell my mother with this dissapointing news once again. but another abortion, was not in my plans, neither is a baby. but i say everything happens for a reason. Only God can help me now. Im mostly scared to dissapoint my family again. i really need to figure out what im going to do. i need help. Please pray for me. :/ never get urself in this situation more than once. please its very stressful, especially for a young girl. use protection and get plan b, anything u can do so this wont happen in ur life. its horrible now that i think about it. reading all these other girls responses on abortion.
Hey girls. I’m doing a persuasive speech for an english assignment on how abortion is okay…I don’t see a lot of girls commenting on here if they had an abortion and they don’t regret it. If anybody did have one and they are okay with it please put your story up here so I can hear your side of the story . Thanks
Well, I read the most recent post and thought I would help you out. Short and to the point. I am older and probably could of kept the child and been fine. I do believe everyone has a story and reasons why they choose such a hard choice. I was recently divorced and already have a child. I had NEVER thought about this situation and was NEVER totally against it. I always believed it was each girls’ choice. Ok I did it, had an abortion. It was indeed the hardest thing I ave ever done emotionally! I believe that I would do it again if I went back in time. I don’t regret it, however I think about it every day. I know where I am at in my life and know that I would not of been able to be the mother I would need to be. I did not plan on this happening and know that everything happens for reasons and everything has a lesson to be learned and taught. With all this being said I don’ regret the abortion and know that I made the righ choice for me and my situation.
Before you make that choice do your soul searching, do your homework on the clinic and stand firmly on your choice.
Just like one of the other young ladies that posted a comment, I too am older and have had two abortions.
I was 15 years old when I had the first procedure done. I was a victim of rape. My attacker was a school “friend” and upon finding out I was pregnant, my legal guardian decided for me that it was best that I didn not keep the child.
The next abortion took place about two years later when I was 17 and again my legal guardian made the decision for me. During this time of my life I was in custody of the state through what is known as the foster care system.
I did not know and what was not told to me by the doctors was the damage I had endured to my reproductive system because of these procedures.
The first procedure was two appointment process, where my cervix was dialted one day and the next day my uterus was scraped with an instrument called a currette. This was very painful after I woke up.
The second procedure was done in a clinic and suctioning instrument was used (vaccuum). My cervix was numbed (saddleblock) and the vaccuum was inserted through my cervix and the baby was sucked out.
After these procedures, it was very difficult for me to conceive and carry children. I had two consecutive miscarriages in my early twenties because of the damage to my uterus from the procedures.
I finally gave birth to my first child when I was 25, only after nine weeks of bed rest and the constant threat to miscarry. Six years later I miscarried for the third time. About two months after the third miscarriage, I became pregnant again and gave birth to a full term baby girl.
Upon the the birth of my last child, my husband and I made the decision to have a hysterectomy due to the difficulty pregnancy presented for me.
At times I feel regret about the abortions I had. The possibility of two babies at such a young age has both its high and low points, aswith anything in life. Then again that is just life.
On the same token, I know that I went through what I went through to help someone else. So if this comment gives hope to the someone in the same situation I was in, then the purpose for my reproductive life has been served.
Hi, I’m 48, and had a b aby when i was 26. I didn’t have a choice, so I found a wonderful family and they adopted her, she’s now 22 and i’m so glad I had her, I have never
ever regreted it, though her dad left i still am glad i had her and know one day, she will find me.
Its up to whoever is preg. what they do, but one thing that made me me know what i felt was when they called
her contents when all i d id was call to ask
about a preg. test, and they told me how they do a abortion, calling her contents, and that was it,
i knew i had to have her.
Her dad may not have been around, but that was ok,
i made it, and after all this time he’s still gone,
and I still love my baby.
he was ok when we dated but then,
accused me of dating others when i didn’t.
hey all yall girls im 16 years old in yes i had a skear but when i found out that i wasent it hurt me to death me in my man iv been wit for 3 in a half years!!!!:):) yall are saying that yalls man would break up wai yall if they find out i think that they are dont love yall at all so leave them thats wat i think!!!
Don’t believe abortion clinics when they tell you that the baby is ‘just a clump of tissue’. Have you ever seen a picture of an eight-week-old fetus? By week eight the baby has all the organs it will ever have. The heart is beating and will beat roughly 54 MILLION times before birth.
Abortion is a horrible procedure where the baby is literally either ripped limb from limb or burned alive.
I understand that the situations where you are pregnant can be hurtful, stressful, and downright scary. But abortion is never the answer, unless YOUR LIFE is endangered. You should never punish somone who isn’t responsible for your problems.
Please give your little one a chance.
to all the haters . sometimes in life we all have to make decisions that are hard , or difficult , and even though we know what is best for us we still do whats wrong, I have been in a relation ship with a man that is married, for 9 months now ,and i just missed my period, so that means that were pregnant, i am really sure that if the wife found out , it would be history for both of us , the father says that its my decision, and it is. but he is 55 and i am 28 , he has 6 children already, and i don’t have any,it would be my first, i was married for 7 years to a loser , with whom i never wanted to have kids, now the man i love is somewhat older and well lived, and i am still in my youth, it wouldn’t rite for me to continue with this preg. knowing that the father would only be here for maybe 10 more years, my child deserves to have a family for a lifetime and not just a few years, so i have made the decision to have an abortion and it’s my choice,by doing so one day i can have the family i want with a supportive husband and loving father that will be here for the majority of my kids life and not just a few yrs. its selfish to not give the kid a happy family and a family for a lifetime
hey girls never a abort one of your on species its better to let you own boyfriend know watt going to happened and if h don’t want it then screw him u dot need and asshole in your life you could be single perantes it don’t matter ull struggle ut its worth it don’t ever abort a child of your own kind ull probably regret watt u do after so please girls keep your head up high and dot let your parents or your man scared u its not wroth it trust me watt happend happens but thats just sad doing that killing on of your own kind its just stupid well hpe u guys do better
hey my name is nicey well can i tell you a lil bite about what happen to my sisther when you found out she was about to be a mom she want to have abortion in we told her that not right to have abortion
I do not think that abortion is okay so to all of you that do it is your choice:)
I think abortion is individual decisions. You have to make sure thats what you want, not because someone else opinion. I had a couple but with no regrets because I knew thats what I wanted.
My friends daughter told me that shes pregnant and asked me not to let her parents know. Shes only 16. I am a mother myself of an 18 years old. What do i do???????????
I found ot a couple of days ago that im pregnant i have a kid already i have never believed in abortion but am changing my mind. I found out not 48 hrs after taking my test that i have a very serious health condition that doesnt effect most people till their 50s and im only 26, plus niether me nor my bf can afford another child so inspite of my long held beliefs im getting an abortion. Never say that you wont do it ever bc when your in a situation like i now find myself you might change your own beliefs. I am thankful now that we live a time and country where we have the choice and it might bother me in the future it is the only logical choice available for me. Never let anyone make the choice for you remember WE ARE WOMEN AND WE ALWAYS KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT FOR OURSELVES. I hope this helps someone out there make up their own mind GOD BLESS!
For those interested, the book Choice is a collection of stories from women who have made an assortment of reproductive decisions. It’s a good book to gain some perspective on how complex such choices can be.
For all of you who are debating whether to abort or carry to term, that is your decision. None of us can make the decision for you. All I can say is read up on each choice you are considering, be as well versed as possible, and think about how these choices will effect your life. No one else can live it for you.
HELLO EVERYONE,
I HAD ABORTION LIKE IN 2004 I WAS 21 YEARS OLD I HAD ONE CHILD ALREADY AND I COULDN’T TAKE CARE OF ANOTHER ONE, SO NO I DON’T HAVE NO REGRET ON WHAT I DID AND NO IT DON’T MESS WITH ME. I THINK EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON LIKE GOD PUT US ON THIS EARTH FOR CERTAIN REASON AND I FEEL NO ONE HAVE THE RIGHT TO TELL ME OR NO ONE ELSE IF THEY CAN HAVE ABORTION IF THEY IS OVER AGE IF YOU IS UNDER THE AGE THAT A ISSUE THAT THE PARENT AND THE GIRL THAT IS CARING THE FETUS BUT THE FATHER DON’T HAVE NO SAY SO. NO ONE CAN TELL ME I DID THE WRONG THING BECAUSE I FEEL I DIDN’T AND I KNOW I DIDN’T SO I FEEL PEOPLE JUST NEED TO MIND THE OWN BUSINESS AND WORRY ABOUT THERE OWN BECAUSE SO PEOPLE DO THIS BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO NOT BECAUSE THEY WANT TO AND I DID IT BECAUSE I HAD TO BECAUSE NO CHILD OF MINE GOING TO BE ON NO GOVERNMENT FUNDING AND THAT ALL IT’S TO SAY ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SO NO IT DON’T BOTHER ME NOT ONE BIT BECAUSE MY SON HAVE EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD BECAUSE I CAN TAKE CARE OF HIM WITH NO PROBLEM.
Women,
do what is right for your self.
Abortion is safe and legal.
If you have a baby when you are not ready the rest of your life may be ruined.
Don’t let any of these bonehead prolifers talk you out of your own intelligence.
God Bless,
Katie
There is nothing boneheaded about sticking up for the unborn! If they had a choice they would want a chance! No one should be put down for speaking the truth about how wrong abortion is! Pro-life is the right way!
Loved Ones…
There is no doubt we all do what we think is right at the time. But let me tell you that you will never get rid of that baby. You will regret your decision the rest of your life. I know, I do. Even after 30 years this year not a month goes by that I don’t think about the baby I swept form my womb because I wasn’t ready. But the clinics told me it was okay, and legal it’s painless NO, it’s not!!. They will not tell you the mental pain you experience the rest of your life.
I punished myself and never had any children of my own. I told God if I would kill one I would not deserve a child. I held to that promise despite my desire feel a baby grow in my stomach and to hold my own child. You never will understand that untill you get older.
Life, All baby’s, are a gift from God. All life is given by God, and He never makes a mistakes. Who are we to take end the life of an unborn man or women. this child is an a gift that will one day dance with you, cry with you. sleep next to you, say MOMmy why are you crying, this child will fill your heart with more tlove than you will ever know. One day you will look into your childs face and think I am so glad I chose Life…
All that being said…What if your mother chose to abort you????
Hey girls! I am now 22 yrs old. I was 17 when I got pregnant for the first time. I had just graduated from high school and was about to move out and go to college. Well my mom talked me into having an abortion so I could still do that. I was severely depressed. I had the procedure done in June and I was again pregnant by the same guy in late October. I was so depressed, I thought my life would never be the same without a child. I did not live at home then so I never told my parents until I was about 5 months pregnant. My parents were disappointed but the helped me move back home finished college and now I have a 3 year old that I love with all my heart. I regret my abortion everyday. I always have to look at it in abouther way since my son is here. I feel that my first baby is my sons garudian angel. But I am not justifying an abortion. Always know an abortion is a womans choice. Just please think before you act. Having a child is the greatest moment in your life. And if you are young and don’t want to have an abortion, there are many married and single couples that want children and can’t have them, consult an adoption angency. Thank you for reading this, and I hope this helped you in your decision making.
Hey ladies,
I work in a center where we counsel women and teens about their pregnancy situations and I have literally sat with over a thousand women, a fair number who have had abortions.
Did you know?
4% of women having abortions said they felt pressured to abort.
4% said they were not fully informed.
2% felt rushed and 4% uncertain beforehand, yet
1% received no counseling beforehand, and
the vast majority were completely satisfied with their care.
94% were fully informed about alternatives.
Almost none suffer trauma symptoms and abortion is the safest procedure in medicine.
Love you all,
Anna
Hi i am 25 and i have three children. I have not finished college and am currently not enrolled. I have had six abortions and am pregnant again all by the same father who has two other children besides our three. Yes i blame myself for being in this situation because despite the fight or help he would stop giving me with our kids because i don’t want to have sex until he makes the committment to marry me or unprotected. Even with his help i’ve been struggling with my children getting them to school and everything else they need. I still have not gotten myself together. We stay in an apartment that only allows four people u do the math and i can’t find a home or bigger apt. that will hold us that i can afford because i will not raise my children in the ghetto with bad schools. I do regret the abortions i’ve had and i ask God’s forgiveness, but what i regret most is not standing up for myself and my body therefore leading myself into these disappointing paths and decisions. One lady asked what if your mother killed u, truth is since H.S. my life has been filled with what we call life: changes, choices, decisions, love, hate, regrets and even depression and every time i get in a pickle i wish my mother would have given me up. I’m suppose to be this strong person, but i’m weak in so many ways all to to fear of what next. I pray no other girl puts herself in the position i’ve put myself in. I hope that they find God and keep him close and never sway on their beliefs in any given situation. God bless u all!
Toya,
I understand what you are saying. Have you thought about adoption? Also, what about birth control? Help is there for you if you just reach out. Visit a pregnancy crisis center to deal with what is going on now. Sometimes we have to get strength from someone who is trustworthy before we can build it up in ourselves. It sounds like you are letting life happen to you. You’ve got to take control girl. You and your children deserve this. There are many financial benefits to single moms for school. Now is the time! God be with you!
hi i dont no here im going.i ben with my man about 1 year and down the line i find out i was pregn and he ask me to get abortion and i did i was 17 year old .ladey dont care about what man thank do for you down the line you still by or self.the 2 time the same man im 23 year older now out of school have my own pamtment work doing good for my self. one day i go see my dr and she tell me im 3m pregn and i till my man that i ben with over 8 year that im pregn you no what he ask me to do and i did to have abortion i didnt no what to do . now i did it my life is no good because i wont my baby but i didnt wont my man to live me. so for all waman how is pregn dont have a abortion because of a man because down the line you will love that baby i no i wish i can have my baby back she or he ill ben have on oct 19th 2009
well….im 22 i have 2 kids..i was pregnet for the theird time felt it was to much i was going thru hard times w my boyfriend…i thought an abortion was the best idea..i went the hole thing..after 6mon i found out i was pregnet agin i has a miscarrige(very pain full)..now i am pregnet yes i know!im going thru another miscarrige…i know i need birthcontrol,my point is making the right choice is not easy some times its hard.think whats best for you and your family(Not a guy) ,seek help,i wish i would of make that choice..oh go to school get an education thats important
hey im only 16 n got a baby
i dont think you shold have an abortion
you should put it up for adoption
cuz me i kept my baby because i got an job and take care of my self and my family so i have mine
but you are 19 and if you killt he baby you will feel bad in the long run so im telling you to keep your baby and do what you think is right for the baby
im 23 years old and have a 6 year old. i recently found out that i am pregnant and am now almost 14 weeks and my boyfriend not the father of my 6 year old, is tellin me to get an abortion. i personally dont believe in it and dont want to have it because i have certain medical conditions which ive been told are a high risk to my health and my life. ive told him and he doesnt care he still wants me to get an abortion and i believe if i dont do it he might try to give me one himself. what do i do. i want to keep my baby but im scared of what he might do.
Hey there. I am a 27yr old mother of two. I left the dad, and am supporting my children alone. I recently found out I was pregnant again, and have made the decision not to have the baby. I was on birth control, but its not 100% effective. My children were both very premature, had long hospital stays and many complications. The doctors told me not to try to have any more, but refused to do the tubal litigation. I believe there are always choices. If you are to young to get a job and support your child yourself, you shouldnt be having sex in the first place. it kills me that there are 12 to 16 year olds who are having to make the choice of having a baby or not, when you are still babies yourselves. Sex isnt something that youre going to miss out on if you dont do it, it will be there when you get older. Get your education, get a job, and get to a place where if you get pregnant, you can support your child yourself if the daddy leaves you. My daughter just started kindergarden, and when shes old enough, I will have “the talk” with her and hope she will be smart enough to say NO until shes old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences as an adult who doesnt need a man to support her.
Look ladies, this is your body and your choice. Don’t let anyone guilt you into anything that you’re not prepared to do. You have to live with your choices, not these retards, and not myself either. I have been there, and it wasn’t an easy choice for me, but it was the only option that seemed logical. I have no regrets, I had the procedure done and sure it had an emotional toll on me. But in the long run I believe I made the correct decision for myself and my family.
The people who try to make you feel bad are people who have not walked in your shoes, people who don’t live your life, and people who won’t have to deal with the repercussions of your choice. Ignore them and find out what you truly want.
Raising a child can be very rewarding and also very challenging. If you’re not prepared to make the sacrifices in life that it takes to raise a child or even to give a child to a good home, than you’re really only left with one option.
Know that in the end, you are the one who has to deal with this. No one else. So no one else should decide anything for you. It is your body, and your life there for it is your decision. And hopefully it will always remain this way, no one should decide what you should do with your body. It is yours and yours alone.
its not right to kill somebody or a baby that hasnt even had a chance to see the world i know we tell ourselves that we dont need a baby but i bet she/he would be happy thtat they are yours!!!!!
MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION!!!!!!!!!
Im 19 a sophmore at a university with a full scholarship. Ive been with my bf for 4 years. Just found out Im abt 5 weeks pregnant. My parents are very traditional and I just dont have the guts to disappoint them with the news. My boyfriend is with me 100% whether I decide to keep the baby or not. But abortion just seems like my best shot. I cant get a job because the scholarship requires me to be a full time student. I cant let the scholarship go because I would have no way to pay for my career. My boyfriend is now working 2 jobs to pay for his school. I was on the pill but it wasnt effective. I know its my choice and I will be emotional after but right now is just not the time. If we women have the right to chose when we want to have a family then who are you to say what we should do.
Hey Everyone, Im Going Through A Tough Time Right Now Nd Although My Boyfriend Is Here With Me All The Time i just feel like im going thru it all alone. Iam 16 Yrs Old and Pregnant My Story May Seem Similar To the others except the only difference is that i already have a baby who’s seven months.My Boyfriend is 17 and he’ll be 18 next month, he’s currently searching for an apartment,job,and ofcourse attending school now in his last year of high school.He says hes not ready for a child and if i have it it’ll be rushing him to speed up the process of what hes working on.He also said that he loves me and promises to support me in whatever decision i make..He just feels like im young still in school and already have a baby nd that i should just wait..Hes right in way but he has to understand where im coming from.I know iam young and that i already have a child but i feel like its not fair to let one live and not the other i dont wanna take my baby’s life i wanna give it a chance at life..Im a mother so i know how it feels to raise a child its hard but its just sooo beautiful and me being a mother i would know what iam missing.I feel like i should keep it But i dont wanna upset nor burden anyone.iam just soo confused and i know that iam going to be an emotional wreck because i already am.I cry every night wishing things would just come easy but it does’nt its all up to me to set the difficulty of my life but i wanna have this baby so bad no doubt about it i just ned help ..Theres not a night that goes by and everytime i close my eyes all i can hear is the words CAN I LIVE?.
Any Advice Guys?.
For The Comment Above.
Eshaa I have advice. Adoption, if you feel you can not raise another child but do not want to abort the baby, than give him/her up for adoption. There are many married couples who can not have children and want one so bad, so please dear don’t abort the baby let the baby live in a loving home. A couple from my church just adopted a little baby girl. She is so sweet and adorable and they love her so much, please let your baby be loved as much as that baby is, and let another couple be as happy as they are!
sarah dygert i’m 31 years old i had my abortions at age 20
i regert that i did don’t make the same mistake that i did
don’t have a abortions just keep it or abodpt it
im 23yrs old 9week pregnet i dont know what i wanna do me n the dad just broked up and he dos’nt even live close to me. He says i should have an abortion but i dont know if thats what i want, i just dont wanna have a child with out a dad to be there for him when he needs him. i cant do this all by my self i have no money to support a child what should i do?
poop
i am 17 years old and got an abortion because my boyfriend(STEVEN) “wasnt ready” he told me if i really loved him i would do it so i did and im pregnet and ready to have one
If you ever considered abortion or thought about it, I recommend you watch my 4D Sonogram of my pumpkin. She’s smiling and laughing and so joyful. No amount of pain can be enough to eradicate her.
It’s a 4D Sonogram and it’s in color.
I HAVE to do a project over this over abortion and let me just say OMG !!!!!!!!! murder !!! thats what this is , because my cousin is 15 years old got pregnet and guess what she took control and it was hard but she is making it !!!!! IF YOU CAN LAY THERE AND HAVE SEX THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO STAND UP AND TAKE CARE OF THE BABY !!!!!! if i am wrong please tell me kkkkkkkk
you have got to be joking !!!!!!!! i am only 18 years old and i even am smart enough to not have sex in less i love that persom and want a family with him !!!!! come one people have some dignity to not let your self look and sound like a hoeeeee this is wrong, you could at least have the baby and give it up adubtion!!!!!!! THINK THINK THINK !!!!!!
im 27 married for 8 years to the same man. with 3 kids. my third. came at a time, when hell was all around me, i decided to get an abortion, but for some reason, i didnt, i cant really tell you why i didnt, but she came early, at 7 months, and when i say her i realized why i didnt. i loved her, even though i didnt know her , she was and is my daughter. if your young and condsidering abortion, why would you have sex in the first place. please dont be that pathetic.honey, just wait. you wont die. and nither with the guy your with. as for the love part. believe me, people are not trustworthy,dont become a fool.
If you ever considered abortion or thought about it, I recommend you watch my 4D Sonogram of my pumpkin. She’s smiling and laughing and so joyful. No amount of pain can be enough to eradicate her.
It’s a 4D Sonogram and it’s in color.
I had an abortion recently and I just wanted to let people out there know it really wasn’t that bad and don’t feel pressure to keep a baby if your not ready its your choice and yours only. I also had a baby at 18 and it truly is amazing I love my baby so much and it definitely is possible to keep your child and take care of it there’s a lot of help out there. But I do feel I made the right decision by getting an abortion the second pregnancy.
let me tell you this abortion is not right i am 25 years old i have been with my husband a year married that is and we have been together for eight i would do anything to have a child to call mine. We can not afford adoption and we can not afford the surgery we both work and i attend school full time. There is always someone looking for a child and someone willing to love her/him no matter what if you would like to give up your child why not give them a chance to live like your mother gave you and give someone the oppertunity to have a famliy.
if you decide you do not want your baby call me 812 -614-2245 women is 25 man is 30 and can not have kids and can not afford the local adoption places can afford attorney both work are married and have 2 bedroom apartment would have loving grand parents nieces and nephews along with uncles and aunt women goes to school full time and have a cat 5 years old. coudl afford to raise your child/ there child and put trough college later on will love and cherish your and gods gift of love
I know that you’re considering a way out but let me tell you that there’s something magical about keeping your baby.
“My God has anwsered” (Hebrew name of Eliana) after keeping my baby.
Hey everyone! I’m just doing this for a persuasive essay and i need some stories to put for my English class. So please!! Help me out!! I want people to doing abortions and I need to put what you guys say about having abortions. if you can send me your stories
Thanks for your support!!!
hey my names alanah and im doing this for a persuasive essay and i need some storeis to put on my essay and all im saying is abortion needs to stop because what the heck killing babies is sad than ever and would you like to be killed i dont think so..nobody should be thinking about having sex and under all i can say is that im having a baby when im in my late 20s even a miscarriage because theres women out there who cant have babies and theres sick women out there having abortions ….thanks for reading this..
thanks for your support
l9ove .alanah martinez here my email:alanah_m@yahoo.com
hey everyone i just wanted to let you guys know is that I’m doing Abortion for my persuasive essay so i need some stories if you’re it because it’s just that you are giving up your own baby that has given you!
Really!! you should just keep the baby and support it or get some help!! Cause’ later on you are going to REGRET IT!!!!!
So please give up your baby!!!!
Thanks for your support!!!
Hello my name is nana and i am an 18 year old parent i have 2 children when i was pregnant of my first child i was affraid i was 16yrs old i didn’t know what to do my boyfriend didn’t have a job i was on probation i had just got out of pathways a juvenile detention his mother took me in to her home and helped me raise my child when my child was born she was born with a defect she had hemangeoma is a tumor on her nose and on her private area she had surgery on her nose when she was 4 months. She was a delicate baby i could’nt even hold my baby. Because she use to cry of pain i was in hospitals all the time because her tumor would grow everyday after the months went on she got better of her surgery and of her private area i was a junior in high school i would take care of my daughter and go to school at the same time i struggled but i got through it with my family and baby daddy and now my daughter is 2 years old and she is so adorable. So when i was a Senior in Highschool i found out i was pregnant of my son i didnt want to have him because i was scared that he was going to have the same defect that my daughter had or worst i was affraid so i made an appointment for the abortion i talked to my mom that morning before going to the appointment and she told me what was i thinking a child is a precious thing that god sends you i was so stressed out and embarrased that i was pregnant again i didnt want to go to school anymore but i told myself i need a better future for my family so i went back to school i really didn’t care what people would say so when my boy was born they took him away from me because he had an infection in his blood he did’nt know how to eat or breath right he stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks i use to go to the hospital and see him with tubes all over him i use to cry and tell god why if i am a good person and i wanted my son so when i went and sayed sorry to god about what i was going to do have an abortion and i told him to leave me my son. So the next day i recieve a phone call and they told me my baby was ok to go pick him up when i heard that my heart jumped. Now my baby is 6 months he is healthy and beatiful.And as for me i am a highschool graduate and attending college to become a Radiologist Technition. And planning to get married with the father of my kids. going on 6 years in our relationship love him and he loves me to.This is part of my life. and don’t make the same mistakes i did but you can succed in life with your child or children.If i can do it you can 2. Don’t do something you are going to regret !!!!
just to put my 2 cents in.
do what’s right for you. no one else. just you.
i’ve done both. i had a daughter and a son relatively early, thinking i could handle it, thinking i’d be just fine, as all the “abortion naysayers” kept insisting. we struggled, and it wasn’t all ice cream and fairy tales, but they *were* incredibly happy times in my life.
life fell apart, however, and at 6 years old and 2 years old, i made the decision to give them up for adoption.
this will rip your soul from your body. i was out of my jello tree for 2 years before coming back to some form of reality. i still walk around with a hole through my chest, having raised them for that long and giving them up.
they were adopted by a great family, they’ve had a fantastic life, and i now talk to one of them. i did the right thing in giving them up – right for them. not for me. it still breaks my heart. i’m still haunted by that. i have nightmares. i even have trouble making a decision for myself, because well, look at what happened the last time i made one. i gave my own flesh and blood away. i was tormented by guilt. i still am, 18 years later.
i’ve also experienced an abortion. best thing i could have done. i suffer no guilt from it, i barely, if ever, even think about it. it was the logical thing to do at the time, it made all the sense in the world. it’s not murder any more than taking a chunk out of your finger is. it’s cells at that early stage, nothing more. just because it grows doesn’t mean it’s a child. when it has a brain, well, that might alter things somewhat.
i’ve also miscarried 2 children i was trying to conceive. devastating. found out it was due to very low estrogen. so nothing to be done about that. and i held those dead babies in the palm of my hand, both of them 6 weeks along. lumps of pale jelly. don’t let extremists tell you it’s a person at that gestational age. it’s not. it still hurt to lose them, the potential for a child was there. you get emotionally attached – you’re supposed to. nature’s wired you to instinctually protect and expand your species. i think we’re pretty good for population, personally.
now, interestingly enough, i’m faced with another unplanned pregnancy, at close to 40 years old, after being told that no, they would not tie my tubes because i’m allegedly going through early menopause. they were wrong. and i find myself searching the internet for opinion on what to do, and find very little outside of the holy rollers who insist that having the child is the right thing, every time, no matter what.
it’s not. you’re the only one who can make that call, though.
i *can* tell you, having experienced both; giving a child up for adoption hurt me far more, for far longer, and put me in therapy the last 18 years to deal with guilt and trouble now making any sort of decision. giving them up left a hole that still runs through me, and likely will til the day i die. it killed me to do that. i wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
being a parent in poverty sucks. not knowing how you’re going to feed that child sucks. how fair is that to the child, or to you? these abortion nay-sayers make it out like, oh just have the child and all will be right, it’ll all work out.
sometimes, it doesn’t. to be realistic about it.
abortion, it sucks for a few weeks, and it was done. it causes me no remorse, knowing it was the rational, logical thing to do. i know not all women agree with that, but there *are* women out there for whom this is the right decision.
ask me today if i’m going to keep this baby i’m now pregnant with, and i couldn’t honestly give you an answer. i live in a very christian town so anyone i know up here is totally biased in their belief it’s a sin to abort.
being a mother made me a better person, i can tell you that. i have such fond memories of my daughter and i. but i remember how hard it was too. there is not a moment’s peace. there is not a “night off”. this is 24/7, the rest of your life.
now, however, having finally gotten some sense of sanity back, 12 years after giving my children up, i have to say i love not having the responsibility. i love my life, i travel, i go where i want, when i want to. i can save up a stupid amount of money not spent on diapers or college funds, and take trips to europe, home to canada, new zealand. there’s a freedom in not having a family that is so precious as well. i snowboard. i skateboard. i do everything that scares me. i *live*. finally.
someone once told me, having a child is the act of willingly taking your heart and living with it outside your body. very true.
don’t let anyone guilt you into having a child you’re not ready for, emotionally or financially. instinct, if you listen carefully, will tell you what’s right for you.
screw what anyone else thinks. you’re the only one who has to live with your decision.
if having a child will be the most incredible thing to happen to you – and don’t get me wrong, it can be so incredibly wonderful at times – then do it.
there are pros and cons to both sides.
some women, and even some men, will tell you it’ll destroy you to have an abortion.
imagine having the child and failing when they’re older. *that*, my dear, will destroy you.
imagine becoming a mom is the best decision you’ve ever made.
all of them are entirely possible.
the choice of which path to walk down, is yours alone.
just know that abortion is not all fire and brimstone.
and having a child is not all roses and fairytales.
in everything, there is balance.
Wow, that was an extraordinary story.
Thank you for sharing, so honestly,, so few are.
Abortion is a women’s choice.
Women have the choice to control their bodies.
None will take that away now.
No one should legislate what a person may do with their body, especially when it comes to reproductive freedoms.
There are many birth control option out their.
Very few women need tubal ligation in this age.
Look around the internet, visit an educated intelligent OBGYN,
Mirena
Essure
Low Dose OCPs till you hit menopause.
Check your hormone levels, if you are in early menopause, then that problem solved,
Wishing all the best in the world.
Happy Thanksgiving (in the USA)! We are very thankful!
There’s so much to be thankful for even with all the circumstances surrounding our lives!!!
I just found out a few weeks ago I am pregnant. I have 3 boys, and another boy who lives with his Dad. I had a abortion at age 14, it destroyed me. My now ex boyfriend is demanding I get an abortion or he will get custody of the baby! I cannot handle a abortion or another custody fight. The thought of a abortion makes me want to pass out. I have a new boyfriend now who is totally understanding. But I am scared.
I broke up with my ex because he didnt care how I felt about getting an abortion, then he came to face with that. He said If I keep it he will get custody since I am crazy and already have 3 kids. He says I am crazy because I talk to my friends about the pregnancy and my problams.
I am just scared. He will not sign away his rights to the baby! He keeps sending me threats.
I do not know what to do. I am about 7 weeks pregnant now.
Hi,
First step is to get in contact with social services where ever you live.
If you cannot figure it out, call the police and ask them.
If you are being threatened, and you fear for your safety you must first tend to this issue immediately.
Then when you feel safe shortly after, you should have a social worker counsel you, or other objective qualified individual.
You live in a glorious nation of choice and personal freedom.
It is your body, it is your choice.
I pray for your safety and good counsel. You will be OK.
Regards,
Ok so here’s my story………I am 20 yrs old about to turn 21 in a couple of months.I have no children but my bf has 3. My bf and I have been together for nearly 2yrs. I love him with everthing I’ve got. When we met he was going through a divorce….We discussed not having children for @ least 2 or 3 more yrs to come. I couldn’t get on birth control though because of a heart murmur condition that I have. Well anyways I just found out that I am 6wks pregnant. I was always one to be pro-life (against abortions) but now that its actually me Im really thinking hard about this. He strictly and undoubtedly doesnt want this baby, he says he doesn’t want anything to do with it if I decide to keep it. I understand his point of view that it is kind of soon for us we havent really experienced living together or having fun just the two of us….anyway then theres my point of view to where in a way I want to have this baby….He says its either him or the baby…This turns my love for him into hate because he should’ve just said that he would be there for me no matter what.
He says if I go through with this abortion that we can still be together… And in a couple of yrs have a planned preg. This is indeed something that I want to have a baby with the father around…Who wants to raise a baby alone????
I’ve thought about adoption but I think that would emotionally scar me alot more than abortion. Due to his attitude to where he says he loves me but doesn’t want this baby “right now” Do you think its all a front?? If I get an abortion for him I wonder if all the things he tells me will happen between us, I know that nothings guaranteed but I love him and I truly believe he loves me too. I truly just don’t know what to do…Oh and on the whole adoption thing he says he doesn’t want a preg. gf……I’ve already told my mom and g ma about my pregnancy there so excited about it….I hate to take that away from them…..Should I just raise this baby on my own and say SCREW HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IDk..Please help I need advice….
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Im 27 i have a beautiful 3 yearold gurl and a 10 year old boy. Ive had to abortions 6 months apart.I just found out that i was pregnate .I have a apportment due saturday for a procedure Im alittle scared I want to keep the baby but I already have 2.I have a alright job but I do have things going on in my life right now I dont want to get rid of the baby but Im scared to have another one and stugle.I dont know wat I should do is the frist time Ive been so confused about a situation can any one give me a advice.?
Im 27 i have a beautiful 3 yearold gurl and a 10 year old boy. Ive had two abortions 6 months apart.I just found out that i was pregnate .I have a apportment due saturday for a procedure Im alittle scared I want to keep the baby but I already have 2.I have a alright job but I do have things going on in my life right now I dont want to get rid of the baby but Im scared to have another one and stugle.I dont know wat I should do is the frist time Ive been so confused about a situation can any one give me a advice.?
I have been reading alot of comments about abortions. It makes me so sad to think of that. Please don’t do it. I just had another miscarrage and my husband and I have just been very depressed because we have been wanting another baby. There are so many people in the world like myself who would love to raise your baby if you couldn’t. So I believe you should at least give the beautiful baby up for adoption and give it a chance at living a healthy life. I hope I have been of help to you. Keep your head up and be strong.
girls, its ur decision what to pick. abortion is not murder, so all of u r sayin if u were raped u would keep the baby?? or if the baby is insest u want to have the baby, u want a brother/ son??? if ur young, to young we r over populated as it is, 2 many people r on welfare.! do some thing good for ur self till ur much older, dont make life 2 hard on ur self, idk what i would pick,
.. its a womens moral right to abortion, a fetus isnt a ACTUAL human being. ( it can be a new born child or a hundred year old grandpa or pregnant women). they r required FREEDOM, to act by the use of thier mind.. the fetus is only a potential humkan being like a acorn is a potential oak tree.
I am 15 going 2 be 16, and i dont think that if i make a mistake that it should be here for the rest of my life, but im not saying id jump right into getn an abortion, its not for every one, but dont say its murder, cuz after all what if it just happind 2 be a miss carage?!! — Amy
21, and have just started working…i have a secrete relationship with a 30 yr old guy who happen took my everything. Yes I begin to love him that I have to give my virginity,knowing that on the expexted date of my m enstral period we make love…….3 days latter after we make love, my menstration doenst arrive.Am I pregnant?
I am not ready to be a mother, how can i stop myself to get pregnant at this short time…plz help
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its not the babies fault that you guys were stupid and had sex ok its your own fault so own up and do what’s right for the baby if you don’t want it then put i up for adoption, ddon’t get an abortion because your taking some ones life away they feel too just likke me an u. they have a heart beat an they feel pain. if you don’t want to have a baby don’t have sex because nothing is forsure. so don;t be stupid an take the babies life away its not their fault
hi my name is kendra in i have 7 year old daugther in im pregant with another in trust me.Me in my babydaddy is not on good terms in i dont want this baby sum day i think about gettin abortion in each day i cry cause sumtime i think aint nobody going to be for me with 2 kids….with one it is good but with two i dont know… So for all my ladys out there i now how u feel trust me so u not along……
HEY GURLS I THINK YOUR BABY SHOULD LIVE IM 14 AND PREGNANT!!!!!!! YALL MITE BE LIKE WHY WOULD SHE KEEP IT I THINK EVERBODY HAS A CHANCE TO LIVE!!!
Sup, im jess. im 14 and have never had a abortion. my friend and i are doing a report for school on this and i have to say that i find abortion the meanest thing on earth! i know some of you are put in a bad spot, but think about the baby not just yourself. you don’t have to get an abortion, you could just give it away. true your parents or boyfriend may want to get rid of it but its YOURS not theirs! don’t do something you will most likely hate yourself for latter!
Good luck finding the right thing to do but please don’t abort!
When sex is willingly can we please get a little wiser and stop thinking that pregnancy cant happen to you. What is instead of a baby it’s AIDS. IT CAN HAPPEN TO EVERYONE AND ANYONE.
i just found out im pregnant, and i really dont know what im going to do. my first thought was abortion and then in the back of my mind i think about how horrible i will feel for the rest of my life. but im 21 and dont want that kind of responsibility. im really scared. i dont want to even tell my boyfriend. i dont want him to leave me. gah. any suggestions.