The beauty of self-love lies in the ritual, the actual practice of it. And what better time of the year to discover a new self-love ritual than Valentine’s Day? Even if you’re not currently in a romantic relationship, it’s an occasion to celebrate love, fertility, romance, and passion of all sorts. And let’s be honest, a little extra love can do everyone a world of good. Here are a few spiritually infused practices to help you call it in:
1. Be your own love scribe.
Grab a diary, journal, notepad, or even postcard and pen, and allow yourself to write about what love means to you, letting your heart do the talking. By channelling your heart’s desires, you can release old wounds, let go of what no longer serves you, outline what you wish to bring into your life, and even send out well wishes for others. When you are writing about something negative or love that you want to release, use a black pen. If you are writing positive things that you wish to manifest, use a red pen. Burn anything you write in black so it can be banished. Bury anything you write in red so that it can grow and be nourished.
2. Feed your appetite for love.
No, this doesn’t mean seeking out dipped strawberries and Hersey’s kisses. (Although a few squares of dark chocolate never hurt anyone.) I’m talking about choosing to nourish your body with an infusion of self-love. Find a book that lights your heart aglow, watch a feel-good film, or spend time with like-minded souls who you love and adore. Energetically feast on things that nourish you inside and out.
3. Dance with your senses.
4. Steep a special tea.
Combine herbs that sing to your heart and senses. Try thyme, which is associated with affection and devotion, calming lavender, or joy-inducing oregano. (This can also make a beautiful gift for someone you know who needs a pinch of extra love in their day.) Don’t just go through the motions of it; be mindful throughout the whole process of making your tea. Use it as an opportunity to think about what you adore about yourself and others in your life. As you sip your brew, imagine that you’re physically drinking love.
5. Bump up any ritual with rose quartz.
A rose quartz crystal can take any ritual up a notch. I personally like to wear a rose quartz close to my heart by wearing it in a necklace. You can also hold one in your hand as you meditate, affirming to yourself, “Here, my heart finds peace.” This is a soothing and sensual ritual that will melt away any matters of the heart.
Self-love shouldn’t be exclusive to Valentine’s. Call upon these rituals whenever you need a dose of positivity. The rules are up to you: Combine them; practice them separately; make them your own. Here’s to some serious love magic.